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Butter Lamps and Flower Petals Teach Us

Student – Hi Lama la, on 31 May we commemorate Duchen Nga Zom. Like many people, I have observed this day since childhood, visiting temples and making offerings — yet I have never fully understood its significance or how best to mark it. I would be grateful for Lama’s insights and suggestions la.

Master – Duchen Nga Zom is a duzom — an auspicious convergence of sacred time within the Buddhist calendar, marked by the meeting of five of the Buddha’s enlightened deeds: his conception, birth, defeat of Mara, enlightenment, and parinirvana. 

Bhutanese astrological traditions regard it as especially auspicious for practice, as the karmic effects of actions performed on this day are greatly multiplied — reflecting the power of intention aligned with such a convergence.

So how might we best observe this day? The foundation is simple: refrain from any thought, word, or deed that harm others.

But we can go further. Engage in virtuous actions, and among these, a particularly meaningful practice is to cultivate admiration, respect, and loving remembrance of the Buddha and his awakened activity. We can ask: What does the Buddha’s enlightenment mean in the context of my life? How does it shape and guide my practice?

This remembrance and contemplation are sufficient in themselves, but if we feel inspired to do more, we may make an offering before an image of the Buddha, Guru Rinpoche, or any representation of their enlightened activity. A few flower petals or a single butter lamp will suffice.

What matters is not the scale of the offering, but the intention behind it: the wish that all beings may awaken to the truth and be free from suffering. In this way, even the smallest gesture becomes a means for awakening.

There is a well-known story about a beggar woman that illustrates this point. Very poor, with almost nothing to offer, she nonetheless had deep faith and wished to support the Buddha’s teachings. One day, she offered her own hair to a butter lamp maker in exchange for a small amount of oil.

With that oil, she lit a butter lamp in devotion to the Buddha. Her offering was simple, but her intention vast. She prayed not for personal benefit, but that all beings might awaken to truth and be freed from suffering, and that she herself might attain enlightenment in order to benefit them.

According to the story, the lamp could not be extinguished. Even when Maudgalyayana, — foremost among the Buddha’s disciples in miraculous power — tried to put it out, the flame remained steady. Seeing this, the Buddha smiled and prophesied that she would attain enlightenment in a future life — a reflection not of the lamp itself, but of the strength of her aspirations.

Offerings can also serve as a basis for contemplation — the ground from which wisdom arises. We may reflect on the nature of the petals or lamp. Are they solid, independent objects? Or are they temporary gatherings of conditions — seed, moisture, nourishment, and warmth for the flower; oil, wick, and flame for the lamp?

As these conditions come together, the appearance arises. As they disperse, it dissolves — like a rainbow or mirage fading with shifting light and moisture.

We can extend this reflection further. The offering, the one who offers, and the object before which the offering is made are all likewise dependently arisen, composed of parts and conditions. Like the rainbow and mirage, none exist independently, and all will dissolve once those conditions shift. Recognizing this is the awakening of wisdom.

When the offering is complete, as in the story of the beggar woman, we dedicate whatever merit arises to the liberation of all sentient beings. This act not only expresses generosity; it also loosens the habit of grasping at a fixed sense of self as the “accumulator” of merit. Offered for the benefit of all, the practice becomes complete — open, unconfined, and free from self-attachment.

For those inspired to go further and with the appropriate empowerments, a powerful practice is to visualize oneself as the Buddha, Guru Rinpoche, or a chosen deity while engaging in these acts. This is not pretense, but a training of the mind to recognise that enlightenment is neither distant nor external — it is our own nature, inseparable from that of all awakened beings.

In this way, the act of offering becomes non-dual. The one who offers, the offering itself, and the one to whom it is offered are expressions of the same awakened nature — subject, object, and action no longer fixed or separate. When practice is infused with this understanding, it becomes both the accumulation of merit and the direct cultivation of wisdom, the two necessary components for liberation.

Duchen Nga Zom comes just once a year. How we meet it — with wise awareness or with indifferent carelessness — shapes not only this day but the conditions we carry forward. 

The opportunity is precious, yet the means are simple. We do not need elaborate rituals or perfect circumstances. The foundation is this: the sincere wish that all beings may be free from suffering and awaken to truth.

That wish, held clearly and expressed through even the smallest act, is itself a form of awakened activity. In this sense, it is already an expression of the Buddha nature we are learning to recognize — and together with loving remembrance of the Buddha and his awakening, it is all that is needed.

And we are not alone in this practice. Every person who lights a lamp, offers a flower, or turns their mind toward the Buddha on this day stands in a vast, living lineage stretching back to the Buddha himself. To participate, however humbly, is to carry that lineage forward.